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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/27/2008 10:40:35 PM
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PrincessDonna
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Weird to be posting in here. But I do not want to get pregnant right now.
LOL...me too. I am secretly (or not so secretly now...) terrified I am going to get pregnant before I have a hysterectomy. I've never had a cycle before 4 months with exclusive nursing, and never been pregnant before 9 months post baby, despite using no form of birth control. I don't know why I'm worried.
Hysterectomy is November 12th...two weeks from Wednesday.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/27/2008 11:27:03 PM
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Oh, Donna!! I'll be praying for you. After everything you've been through, it's a shame for you to have another worry!
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/28/2008 5:13:18 PM
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Anyone in this thread NEVER want to get pregnant or get pregnant again for whatever reason? If so, how do you deal with/reason with the thought that you are prohibiting one of God's blessings?
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/28/2008 5:33:05 PM
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Hmm. I have had fleeting thoughts of not wanting another child, I go back and forth some days. Mostly I just don't care to be pregnant again, it's not so much that I don't want the baby. We figure that just like anything else in our life, if we pray God will answer. If I felt like I never wanted another child, I would take it to the Lord and ask Him to give me peace about His will one way or the other.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/28/2008 8:53:45 PM
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Anyone in this thread NEVER want to get pregnant or get pregnant again for whatever reason? If so, how do you deal with/reason with the thought that you are prohibiting one of God's blessings?
I never want to have children, but I am blessed by children (nieces, nephews, friend's children, strange children  ) Also, I don't expect to be rewarded with every blessing God has before He returns... I have already been blessed with every spiritual blessing per Eph Ch 1, but not every physical blessing. Also, according to Phillipians it's God's responsibility to change my mind if I don't have the mind os Christ.
I also believe that many of the passages that are for QF are taken out of context and misinterpreted... In short, I believe a lot of what was spoken of children in the OT is prophetic of Christ and carrying on His Name or was necessary for their culture. Also, I believe it's not a very far stretch from preventing pregnancy for sometimes to preventing pregnancy for always. I mean, mentally, if you accept that it's OK to prevent for a season it's not a huge stretch to get to preventing for a lifetime. Of course, those two things are worlds apart in some areas (like lifestyle.) That's the main reason I brought up QF... because in my mind QFers are the main ones who have a really hard time accepting the idea of never having children by choice. I'm not speaking personally, here, but of ideology. Please understand I'm not trying to start an argument or say anything about anyone personally...
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/28/2008 9:23:32 PM
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I love my children, but I've never thought that they were the only blessings God could give me, and I've never thought that God would give me every possible blessing there is, either.
I mean, I don't speak in tongues, but I'm sure if God wants me to, he'll lay that upon my heart. I've never prophesied a single thing in my life, but I still respect those things as blessings. I just have no desire myself to have them.
Where is it written that we all must desire the exact same blessings, or that we will all get every blessing God has to offer the human race?
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 12:05:27 AM
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Are you late, Sharon?
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 7:08:49 PM
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HomeSpunLady
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I get ppd so bad and have gotten it with both kids. I just don't want to do that, or drugs again. That's why we aren't going to have anymore. Kinda sad over that and while I don't think that sadness means I'm supposed to have more, I think it's just a grieving over being done. KWIM?
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 7:10:53 PM
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Kinda sad over that and while I don't think that sadness means I'm supposed to have more, I think it's just a grieving over being done. KWIM?
Yes, I totally understand.
I didn't realize you had decided you were done. (((((((((((((((Kathryn))))))))))))))))
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 7:29:58 PM
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Are you late, Sharon?
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Yeah for Aunt Flo!!!!!!!
It feels like this month is lasting forever. But, I'm not due for antoher visit until somewhere between the 14th and 17th. Hopefully I'll be done by the time Ray get's back. He returns on the 17th from another 2 weeks away for the Army...sheesh!
Sounds like she's late to me.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 9:43:50 PM
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Naw, I got my period the day after I posted that...
But, starting 2 cycles before getting married, I have gone from 33 days to an average of 23 day cycles. So, I'll guess I'll test late this weekend if Aunt Flo has not shown up. But, my body could also just be readjusting back to my normal 33 day cycle too.
Really though, I'm not too worried. I'm PMSing a bit this week and I have been crampy on and off over the past few days. As my mom would say....my period must be working on me!
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/29/2008 10:14:56 PM
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Kinda sad over that and while I don't think that sadness means I'm supposed to have more, I think it's just a grieving over being done. KWIM?
Yes, I totally understand.
I didn't realize you had decided you were done. (((((((((((((((Kathryn))))))))))))))))
Didn't want to say anything, didn't think there would be support for it. Thought I would get hammered about prohibiting God's blessings. Then I found this thread. Realized there is support for it. I am sad about it, but I can't go through this again. Hubby has taken off so much time just so that I and the kids will be safe, so that the kids are taken care of. I can't let my family down again like that.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 12:13:10 AM
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(((((Kathryn)))))
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 1:19:18 AM
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Mine is here with a vengence. :)
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 10:07:16 AM
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PrincessDonna
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Kinda sad over that and while I don't think that sadness means I'm supposed to have more, I think it's just a grieving over being done. KWIM?
Yes, I totally understand.
I didn't realize you had decided you were done. (((((((((((((((Kathryn))))))))))))))))
Didn't want to say anything, didn't think there would be support for it. Thought I would get hammered about prohibiting God's blessings. Then I found this thread. Realized there is support for it. I am sad about it, but I can't go through this again. Hubby has taken off so much time just so that I and the kids will be safe, so that the kids are taken care of. I can't let my family down again like that.
You have not let your family down. Not one bit. PPD is not something you can control. It is something you can watch for and deal with (and it sounds like you are doing great with that!!), but not something you can make go away, anymore than Brian's wheelchair is something we can get rid of if we just want to bad enough.
I know we've decided to be done for different reasons, but I understand grieving over being done despite knowing it is the best decision for you and your family. I believe there is sometimes wisdom in knowing you need to be done having babies. But at the same time, it's hard to know you won't ever have this stage again. There are great times ahead of both of us though, Kathryn.
As far as what anyone else thinks...oh well. This decision is yours and Andrew's to make with God. No one else gets a say.
Prohibiting blessings? No. There is more than one way to have children, if God leads you in those other directions. And those ways won't throw your hormones into craziness.
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He hears their cry and saves them.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 11:57:18 AM
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HomeSpunLady
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Kinda sad over that and while I don't think that sadness means I'm supposed to have more, I think it's just a grieving over being done. KWIM?
Yes, I totally understand.
I didn't realize you had decided you were done. (((((((((((((((Kathryn))))))))))))))))
Didn't want to say anything, didn't think there would be support for it. Thought I would get hammered about prohibiting God's blessings. Then I found this thread. Realized there is support for it. I am sad about it, but I can't go through this again. Hubby has taken off so much time just so that I and the kids will be safe, so that the kids are taken care of. I can't let my family down again like that.
You have not let your family down. Not one bit. PPD is not something you can control. It is something you can watch for and deal with (and it sounds like you are doing great with that!!), but not something you can make go away, anymore than Brian's wheelchair is something we can get rid of if we just want to bad enough.
I know we've decided to be done for different reasons, but I understand grieving over being done despite knowing it is the best decision for you and your family. I believe there is sometimes wisdom in knowing you need to be done having babies. But at the same time, it's hard to know you won't ever have this stage again. There are great times ahead of both of us though, Kathryn.
As far as what anyone else thinks...oh well. This decision is yours and Andrew's to make with God. No one else gets a say.
Prohibiting blessings? No. There is more than one way to have children, if God leads you in those other directions. And those ways won't throw your hormones into craziness.
Thank you Donna, I needed to hear/read that.
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 1:53:07 PM
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Support from me too, Kathryn. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))
I do admit you always seemed like someone who would have about 5 kids to me.....but that was probably just because I read into the username "homespun lady," as such..but if you realize two is your limit, that is certainly understandable. I am so glad you realize the importance of the safety of you and your children, too. I won't delve too far into it, as to not take the thread of topic..but Andrea Yates had been told by her doctor NOT to have a fifth child, as she was prone to severe ppd, and the doctor said it could endanger her family...I was always sad she didn't follow that advice or at least put a large suppport system around herself...so I am glad you are recognizing where your limits are. Isn't your oldest a girl? That's nice you got one of each even though you had to stop at 2. As I recall, your husband is a pastor..so maybe God will use this as a model for the church that you don't have to have 20 kids to be a Godly family.
Anyway, I wish you the best.........  , Rebekah
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/30/2008 7:12:56 PM
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Thank you ladies. I really need to hear this. I was all down on myself for not leaving my womb open to the Lord. OneOfHisJewels you are right that hubby is a pastor, we do have an older girl. HomeSpun lady just basically means I do a lot of home-made things and that I like my home-made 'job'. Anyway, your responses help me to make this decision easier. Well at least a little bit anyway. Still going to grieve it though.
I guess that's a whole lot off topic, but thanks anyway. It's helped a lot. ((((hugs all around!))))
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RE: The NOT TTC Support Thread..... - 10/31/2008 10:35:21 AM
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You ladies are wonderful. Thank you.
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